For some reason, this Mother’s Day week has me feeling nostalgic. Looking back on all the Mother’s Days I’ve celebrated since becoming a mom has been kind of therapeutic for me. I have to say, for one reason or another, they can be emotional for me and a bit confusing. There are lots of emotions that roll around in my head on Mother’s Day.
First off, it can be hard for me because I lost my mom, but it can also be hard because my relationship with my mom was, and still is, a bit confusing (she was an alcoholic). But there is also the part of celebrating me being a mom, which is the very best and hardest job (as we all know). Looking back on any given Mother’s Day, I’ve wanted to celebrate in a variety of different ways. For instance, when my boys were babies, I just wanted to sleep. When my boys were toddlers, I just wanted to getaway and enjoy some peace and quiet (which I felt guilty about). On other Mother’s Days, I didn’t even know what I wanted because I didn’t know myself anymore. I wonder what a Mother’s Day will be like when my kids are grown.
What I do know is, on every Mother’s day, all I really want is to feel loved and appreciated. I want my family to see and feel the love I have for them. I want them to know how hard I try and how much I love them. As we come to yet another Mother’s Day, I’m not sure what the day will hold for me, so when my husband asked me what I wanted to do and what I wanted for Mother’s Day, I knew I needed to take care of myself. To be honest, my impulse was to just say something like, “I don’t know, whatever…”, but then I thought about it for a second longer and realized I knew exactly what I want to do and what I want (frankly this is cause for a personal celebration, since there were many years I didn’t even know what I liked to do). So why not tell him?! I’m grateful he prompted me to have this conversation because as I’ve learned, he can’t read my mind, so I’ve got to tell him!
I told him that I don’t want to go to a Mother’s Day Brunch or a fancy restaurant, I want to hang out at the house with the boys by the pool. I want to grill out, have a glass of white wine, and maybe watch a movie or a show with the boys, too.
Then I sent him these two pictures of what I wanted:
I mean he asked, right?! HA! I’m loving Ariel Gordon‘s jewelry that my friend Nicole (@gobendie) introduced me to. I knew immediately I wanted to share her stuff with you guys! It’s unique jewelry that I can wear everyday! EVERYDAY! And you know I love EVERYDAY style!
Here’s a few more of my favorites from her site (click on pictures):
These are the coolest birthstone necklaces I’ve seen. They’re so unique! One birthstone for every kiddo! As my friend pointed out, you could do your whole family including yourself and your husband, too.
Here are my other favorites (click on pictures):
How pretty is all the jewelry?! Well, and the nail polish. I had to include it- it’s rainbow!
FYI- If you decide you want a little Ariel Gordon sussy for yourself this Mother’s Day, you probably won’t get your item in time, but good things come to those who wait, right? HA!
Maija says
Carly – How do you always know just what to write? So many times you have addressed exactly what I’m dealing with. Its a good reminder that I am not alone but also to care for and work on myself instead of just my family. I am working to rediscover myself and figure out who I am now. Thanks for giving me the push. Happy Mother’s Day.
Carly Lee says
Your comment makes this entire post worth it! Thank you for encouraging me with your comment. I’m still figuring out who I am. Ha!
Phyllis says
Happy Mother’s Day! That picture of you and your darling boys is precious. You can see all the love. And speaking of love, that jewelry! Might be doing some shopping for myself and sign my boys’ name to the card. : )
Carly Lee says
Yes! What a great idea!
Sandy says
Beautiful writing lovely friend. That has helped me! All I want for Mother’s Day this year (apart from the love of my boys) is a plant – so I went and bought it myself – I am leaving nothing to chance!! Love ya